All relationships have their natural ups and downs, and sometimes it is a challenge to feel positive feelings about your partner. Especially if a large change has come about such as children, moving to a new house, losing a job, or a death in the family. While counselling does not hold all the answers it can help you move in the right direction. What counselling can offer both you and your partner is the opportunity to speak your mind freely in a safe and welcoming environment. In a couple, it’s too easy to play the blame game, or have one person feel unheard. With a licensed counsellor you have a neutral third party in with you encouraging healthy communication.
You will be working together to figure out what patterns and behaviours you might have subconsciously fallen into. You will have the chance to talk without assigning blame on your partner and feel safe to take responsibility for your own behaviour. The goal of many couples counselling sessions is to remind the couple that they are a team. They are two people who have chosen to be together, and it is important not to lose sight of that in the difficult times.
- Financial difficulties
- Work or study demands
- Having or bringing up children
- Accidents or traumatic events
- Serious illness or disabilities
- Loss of job or employment
- Alcohol or drug abuse
- An affair
- Gambling Addictions
- Domestic Violence
Every counselling session with your certified psychologist on the gold coast is tailored to your needs. The first session will mostly be delving into the root causes behind the issues in the relationship. Many of the causes come from habits and behaviours learned long before the relationship formed. Dissecting one’s past can be a useful way to figure out motivations and reactions to stressful circumstances. If one of you suffers from anxiety, depression, or a long-term illness, this may also exacerbate any problems. That is why you could consider individual counselling sessions in addition to relationship counselling.
Talking to a neutral third party will also help shine a spotlight on your issues. Then you will be able to foster healthy and open communication within the relationship. Your counsellor can help teach you techniques to stay away from anger, how to remain calm, avoid finger pointing and pushing each other’s buttons.
While every couple is different, there are many issues that are common among people. Here are some of the potential troubles you may be encountering.
- Losing the feeling of love towards each other
- Feeling like flatmates rather than partners
- Frequent arguing and criticism
- One or both of you shuts down during communication
- There is no love life
- Someone in the relationship had an affair
- There are problems with the in-laws or families
- Management of stepchildren
- Losing yourself in the relationship
- Lack of affection or discussion
If you are willing to put the work in, then you can work towards a healthier relationship with the help of a psychologist.